Love heals all.. For Husbands and Wives in particular: Ephesians 5:22-33, marriage will put you through tests of every kind: mentally, physically, emotionally, psychologically, subliminally, subconsciously.
Wives “must live in subjection to their husbands,” this means they must respect them, not take a horrid beating, never this, but ladies try to change your perspective for the moment, to that of a man’s, to see what they see ( their brain does indeed function very differently than a woman’s).
When at first what they say, makes you wanna throw the refrigerator at them, and anger from “The AUDACITY of This MAN?!?” actually gives you the strength to do so; or if contrarily, what they say causes you to lose all hope, and feel completely without worth: assess whether what they have said, is even relevant and legitimate. Or is it just nonsensical words they heard from a movie or a bad association, or even more seriously is it a test…
Satan using your man’s mouth to direct things at you that are blatantly untrue. You MUST MUST MUST read God’s word the Bible at every moment of stress that arises and pray constantly in your mind to prepare for what Satan may try to throw at you.
READ THE BIBLE, God did not create us to be independent of him, WE MUST READ THE BIBLE! TO handle any kind of stress, depression, self-denial, struggle, resentment, fear, guilt, etc. God’s WORD IS THE ONLY WAY.
Reasoning from God’s word and choosing not to even submit and join in on any irrelevant fiery conversation, will keep a woman strong knowing God made her for good, built beautiful and brave, and he is always there, even when no one else seems to be.
During A Fight, COUPLES:
Recognize Falseness/Nonsense ( OR ANY TEST in general, especially if it is reoccurring, never go down the same path of destruction that only continuously causes chaos; if cooking rice always starts a fight, find out why, don’t just keep cooking rice and fighting)
2. Say Nothing negative/accusatory; self-control/silence WITH prayer and Bible reading is All Powerful everytime, in the fight. Too many Words are Unnecessary at that point, and only add fuel to the Fire (until after cool down and God’s Word is with you should you speak with in depth communication, ask questions, give suggestion, hear out their side, be loving with self-control) Listen and LOVE each other, no matter what differences or struggles exist, listen (hear each other’s true heart) and love.
3. Go to a peaceful Place alone and Breathe, PRAY( never, NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER, underestimate the power behind prayer)
4. Think of Funny Times/ Good Memories, and Hope ahead.
5. Pick up the Bible and Read it Together
6. After the battle has been won, leave the Fight way Behind You, Forever!
Additionally never compare your spouse to that of individuals in movies, songs, TV shows, or even coworkers, or the cute fool from down the road or even a friend.
Of course when a star, or stranger is dressed for a show, their behavior is show-like, or more cool and collective, not raw, if they haven’t been with you when for example, you:
“Wake up extra greasy with ferocious dragon breath, and decide your day has been way too long at 6am and you are never gonna take a shower, EVER, and want chocolate, but hate chocolate five minutes later and suddenly have energy to mow the lawn in whitey tighties, but Eleanore drove by on her souped up walker with the golden tennis balls and whistled at your butt”
so things are about to hit the fan with your honey.. then Brad Paisley or Carly Ray, or “Stacy’s mom who’s got it goin on”.. is human too, and they aint gonna deal with your nit wits , any more so than that special someone you made vows too, not even not at all when life gets real.
Husbands, while your wife is to respect you and love you, as difficult as that may seem for her in a fiery fight, but very possible that that is, your job is to love your woman and Your woman only, not other defilements of flesh, alcohol, bad images, too much television or phone time, obsessing about money, etc etc..these things will suck your soul dry every day till you take your last breath, leaving you wishing you could have just one more chance with your honey.
Cherish her like you love and take care of yourself, and your life will be heaven on Earth. Women are complex, but when it boils down to it, all they need is love ( especially the ferocious ones). Be LOYAL to each other and God, you will see, will make you inconquerable as couple and individually, you will feel insurmountable strength straight from the Almighty.
Never leave your partner behind. As clay made in the hands of Jehovah God, designed for each other, why would you not choose the STRONGEST WEAPON out there to go into battle with, prayer& Jehovah God’s Word! And LOVE, do NOT Repay evil for evil, only with good can evil be conquered.